How You Can Transform Your Life In 2015 – BY NANA KESSE
Nana Kesse’s New Year’s Article that’s easy to keep, Good for your Health and Beneficial for your Relationships. And it won’t cost you a penny. Sound too good to be true? Read on…
I’ve developed a simple set of Article on to transform your life for the New Year. They’re catalysts for reflection rather than formulas for imitation. Their purpose is to get us thinking about our purpose, in both private and community life.
I have originally developed these questions for young people, on the belief that the new generation doesn’t get enough structured opportunities to explore meaning and values. But the truth is, it’s not just millennial today that might lack purpose, feel undecided about shared beliefs and goals/aim or wish they could be part of something greater than themselves. It’s people of all ages.
We Ghanaians rarely get to make a truly mindful assessment of who we are, what’s shaped us and why we hope to change. If we did that first, we’d probably be more capable of making wise resolutions and keeping them. We’d become more conscious of the web of relationship and mutual obligation that holds us together and that makes our freedom and Justice truly worth cherishing. And we might just end up being better humans. Ghana has been the most peaceful Country World Wide despite all the Economic hardship we went through during in 2014. We Ghanaians respect our Democracy, so we have the right to speak our mind, so we understand ourselves, despite your Religion or Tribe.
WORDS OF INSPIRATION:
When God leads you to the edge of the cliff, trust Him fully and let go, only 1 of 2 things will happen, either He’ll catch you when you fall, or He’ll teach you how to fly! The power of one sentence! God is going to shift things around for you today and let things work in your favor. God closes doors no man can open & God opens doors no man can close. May God open all your close doors for you in 2015.
I wish you luck, happiness and riches today, tomorrow and beyond. As you look back on yesterday, may your memories be warm ones. As you wait for the New Year 2015, may your heart be filled with happiness and joy. As you look ahead to 2015, may your deepest hopes and dreams come true for you! I wish you to celebrate all the wonderful things that make you so special, not just on your special day, but on every day of the year! I wish that for every extra Blessing in your Life, you receive an extra reason to smile. Happy New Year to you all!
WORDS OF ADVICE:
The new year is like a new leaf. Everyone should be careful to fill it with what pleases God and helps him lead a happy life in this world and in the hereafter. One’s wrongdoings should be corrected with no delay. Good deeds should be increased and maintained.
At the beginning of the New Year, one should check his relationship with God and with people. If one finds out that he fails to carry out some religious duties, he has to resolve to make up for any missed obligations. He should observe his daily Prayers, Religious practices, etc. Also, one’s relationship with people should be maintained and improved in case of any mistakes.
One is advised to start the New Year with repentance and starting a new leaf with God and people. Repentance, with its basic conditions and requirements, is highly recommended.
HOW TO TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE
H to break free from fear
How to reveal your true passion and find your own purpose
Ho understand infinite energy that effects your everyday life
Don’t miss the opportunities
How trust yourself
How creative visualisation ‘retunes’ your mind
How to navigate from ‘within’ rather than justify with logic
How find security within yourself
To Know yourself
Who You Are?
>>> How To Break Free From Fear (F³):
Life is filled with all sorts of fears that can assault your mind, trouble your soul, and bring untold stress. But you don’t have to remain captive to your fears.
Respond – to fear by praying.
David stopped and prayed. It was a short and simple cry for help. “Be gracious” or have mercy on me. His first response, not his last recourse, was to pray. Too often we try to fix everything first and then only when all else fails we pray. Pray first.
Refocus – don’t focus on circumstances put your focus on God.
David did not let his thoughts feed his fear. Take your thoughts captive by refocusing. Fear focuses all of our attention on the danger. We must intentionally change our focus back to God. When we focus on God, the circumstances look small. When we focus on the circumstances, God looks small. Fear is really just a mind game anyway. Keep your mind on God, when you get distracted, REFOCUS.
Rehearse – the truth about God and His Word.
David rehearses the truth he knows about God. He reminds himself that God knows where he is and that God is for him. He is reminding himself of the power and the presence of God.
Rest– by placing your trust in God.
After responding in prayer, refocusing on God and rehearsing what God’s word says, David rests in the arms of God’s sovereignty.
>>> To Trust Yourself:
“Everyone in your life has the potential of betraying you,” They may leave. They may pass away. They may make a rude comment. They may cheat. They may lie. They may disappoint you in many different ways.
“We can’t count on anybody 100 percent.” This doesn’t mean we should isolate ourselves or harden our hearts.
1. Avoid people who undermine your self-trust.
The people who undermine your self-trust are the ones who use you or don’t want you to succeed, Wall said. They’re the “dream smashers and naysayers.”
While you probably didn’t have control over having negative people in your life when you were a child, you do have control today. Think about the individuals who surround you. Do they support you? Do you really want them in your life?
2. Keep promises to yourself.
Developing self-trust also includes becoming your own best friend. And that includes keeping promises to yourself. “Making a commitment and keeping it builds trust.”
For instance, you might make the commitment to create and sustain a boundary. You might make the commitment to take a walk or see the doctor for a checkup. You might make the commitment to go to bed earlier or go to church every week.
3. Speak kindly to yourself.
When clients bash themselves, I know whose voice they’re really hearing. It may be the voice of a parent or teacher or someone else who sent you the message that you weren’t good enough. “Everyone has these awful voices in their heads.”
Fortunately, this is a habit you can reduce or even eliminate. For instance, the next time you make a mistake and blurt out “You’re so stupid,” catch yourself, and instead say, “That’s OK. It was just a small slipup,” or “Yes, that was a big mistake, but I’ll learn from it, and I love myself anyway.”
Being understanding toward yourself when you make a mistake helps you be more understanding toward others when they do the same.
“Trust is the heartbeat of every significant relationship, with yourself as well as with others,” In fact, the relationship with yourself is the foundation of all other relationships.
Again, self-trust doesn’t mean that you always trust yourself to say the right thing or make the right decision or follow every rule, she said. It’s not about perfection.
Self-trust means that you trust yourself to overcome a slipup or failure. As I said, “I’m trusting myself not to do an A+ job but to survive.”
>>> Discovering Your Purpose Is A Process:
It would be nice if you could just snap your fingers and your purpose, your real true purpose in life, would instantly pop in your mind and resonate with your heart. However, discovering your purpose is a process. Why?
For most people, they have never really taken the time to contemplate on it. Another reason is because our society worldwide is totally focused on the superiority of the human intellect/mind instead of the authentic true feelings of our hearts. This causes human beings to pursue and become things they think they should become, instead of following the burning desires of their hearts.
When a person starts to contemplate on and realize their true purpose, a lot of obstacles, false mental constructs, and limiting beliefs get in the way of spotting our true purpose immediately. It’s like peeling the layers of an onion. You must peel way the excess garbage to get to the core of what’s really important.
Discovering your purpose for most people means learning to use something they have never really spent a lot of time exercising. What is that? Your heart, your feelings, your intuition and your curiosity. The late great billionaire, tech hero, innovator, game changer and genius Steve Jobs, in his 2005 Stanford commencement speech stated that the only way we can become great at something, is if we love it. He also stated that you must follow your heart, curiosity and intuition because they somehow already know what you want to become.
Only your heart knows your true passion. Only your feelings can be trusted to reveal your truth. You must be who you are, what you should be… is not important. The key to feeling truly alive and passionate is to spend your day doing as many things that you love and spending as much time with those who you love as you can. The more a human being does things they love, the happier, more successful and fulfilled they will become. It sometimes can be very unpleasant when we wake up to the reality of how much of our time is spent doing things we don’t enjoy, with people we don’t enjoy being with. It’s hard to let go of the certainty of what you know, to embrace the uncertainty of what could be someday with a lot of hard work and dedication.
It’s very unpleasant at times when you are in the middle of striving for a goal, and you have no idea how many more days, weeks, months and years it will be until you realize your dreams. Sometimes the success you seek is so far off into the future, that it seems unrealistic and like it will never happen for you.
On the journey towards realizing your grandest goals and dreams, it will be filled with thousands upon thousands of moments, hours, days, weeks, months and years of self-doubt, feeling like it is hopeless, feeling like it will never work out, feeling like you are wasting your time, feeling like you are wasting your money, etc. However, in those moments of doubt and despair, only your true purpose will burn brightly in your heart.
Your passion, your true passion that is, will compel you to take action even when it seems hopeless. Why?
Because there will be nothing else that will feel better than taking action doing something you love. Every one of us has proven to ourselves and others that we can be perfectly miserable, but successful at getting paid to do things we hate.
If you’re doing something you truly love, you will do it for free. Being willing to do what you love for free is something every entrepreneur/success seeker must do in order to one day realize the giant payday. Human beings WILL NOT do something they hate for very long without getting paid for it. That’s something to think about.
>>> To Find Security/Love/Confident Within Yourself:
I was once a very foolish little lady and I know I’m not alone. I wanted a boyfriend more than anything. I never stopped to wonder why I just wanted it. Now this isn’t going to be a tale about how I wanted it and it didn’t happen and then when I stopped wanting it, it did. My desperation did somehow result in a relationship and from there, Nana ensued.
Saying I wanted a boyfriend had a very clear underlying message- I wanted to be loved, desired, to feel good about myself, to have someone there to make me feel good about myself when I didn’t. During the course of our relationship my moods were totally contingent upon the way he responded to me- a compliment would lead to exhilaration. An insult? Well I’d fall to pieces.
Not surprisingly, the relationship didn’t last and it was only in the years after that I realized the reason why- I was looking outside myself for love and approval, a fatal misstep I see committed all the time. After this relationship ended, I truly learned the value of loving myself, and I found that with my newfound confidence, I was a much happier person out of the relationship than I had ever been when I was in it.
My motivation for this post came the other day while reading Feeling Good by David D. Burns (a book I HIGHLY recommend) specifically this passage: “People who have found happiness within themselves are usually the most desirable to members of the opposite sex and become like magnets because they are at peace and generate a sense of joy.” While these insights aren’t anything new, I felt compelled to examine this concept in more depth because for some reason, I think most of us put this very vital knowledge on the back burner.
We’ve all been told that before you can find a truly significant relationship, it is essential to love yourself. But how does one cultivate such a love? I have faced my fair share of insecurity and self-doubt but these burdens are mostly a thing of the past for me now and I have evolved into someone who is truly confident in every way.
This didn’t happen magically, it took some work and a major attitude overall which was done using the tips listed below.
· Stop Thinking Negative Thoughts
· Figure Out What Confidence Looks Like
· List your attributes
· Know that you CAN be happy alone
>>> Don’t Miss The Opportunities:
The new year occasion is a chance to review one’s deeds and relationship with God and with people. Christianity/Islam events constitute opportunities to understand Christianity/Islam and reform people’s behaviors. Days and Years bring one’s closer to his Death time; so EVERYONE should be careful not to miss any opportunity that come in His/Her way.
Finally, we should never lose hope in gaining God’s pleasure and forgiveness. The new year is like a new leaf that should be filled with good deeds and behaviors. Let’s repent and maintain good relationship with all people and work to spread good values of justice, freedom, and equality.
>>> To Know Yourself:
All of us have heard this aphorism. Most of us acknowledge that unless you know yourself first, you really can’t achieve much in life. We also realize that we each have immense potential to create amazing things and find lasting happiness.
Most of us don’t even scratch the surface of knowing who we really are, let alone figuring out what we have the potential to become. We are so confused that we keep oscillating between overconfidence and low self-esteem. One minute we are filled with a definite purpose for life and the next we are completely desolate. How can anyone hope to find lasting happiness in this state?
>>> Who We Are?:
I invite you, whatever your stage of life, to explore these questions. Ask them of yourself. Talk with family and friends about them. Write and share your reflections. Feel free to adapt and revise the questions to suit your circumstances. If you make it your first resolution to consider these questions well, your other resolutions will almost certainly end up being more honest, more meaningful to you and more useful to others.
What is the one thing that makes you special and unique?
There is no other person on this planet quite exactly like you. For just a moment, quit focusing on what you are not, what you wish to be, or what others expect from you and find out what is the one thing you already have that makes you special. Identify your “special”-ness, acknowledge it, respect it and make it central to how you carry yourself.
1. Think of something (an activity, a job) to which you’re really committed and that takes up a lot of your time. Why do you do it? Do you consider it time well spent? Why or why not? What would make you stop being involved?
2. To whom or what do you feel responsible? What does that entail? What happens when you don’t meet that responsibility?
3. What you do for living? Are you a good worker? A good citizen? A good person? How do you distinguish among them? Which is most important to you?
4. Who or what do you consider your community? What do you do for the community? What would you expect the community to do it for you?
5. How do people perceive you? Do people see you for the special person that you are? Do they appreciate your unique abilities? If not, what is the reason? How can you change it?
6. If you die tomorrow, will you be happy with the life you’ve lived? I don’t want to sound morbid, but it’s true — you really could die tomorrow. Have you lived a good life? Have you left good memories to last your kids a lifetime? Have you forgiven everyone who has wronged you and have you asked for forgiveness from everyone you have wronged?
ENJOY REFLECTING, AND MAY YOUR NEW YEAR (2015) BE HAPPY, AND DEEPLY GOOD. HAVE A BLESSED DAY AND REMEMBER TO BE A BLESSING!!!
HAPPY! HAPPY!! HAPPY!!! 2015